The Chocolate Theory

Internet: a place for shitting from the mouth.

Internet: a place to see the true human nature.

A society is developed by individual and fluid-like correspondence. The internet is obviously another kind of society or nation. Internet is so hyper.

Let’s me show you some facts. There are plenty of chat rooms online, where you can make a profile and kind of ‘promote’ yourself. There is one I used for long time, called, face-pic.com, where you can ‘label’ yourself into some categories, such as straight or gay. In my profile, I note that I am gay and I am looking for conversation. Time to time, I’ve got message from all different kind of people, mostly gay of course and even girls just want to chat.

Since internet is really a hard-core manner-less place, if people are not interested in chatting with one, they might just ignore you or sometimes, you have really ‘real’ respond, such as ‘you are not in my type’. “Type”, what is that? As soon as we have agreed to put in these categories like a big supermarket, “a net of relativity” will automatically occur. But, what type means?

Have a look here. This guy, he writes that he is merely looking for westerner, and he insists that he would not like to receive and message from any Asian guy? Is he the only one? Have a look in the other profile, here. These 2 guys nearly have the same comment that they insist that Asian are not their type. Is this is ok just about a chat preference or sexual preference. It wouldn’t be a big deal, would it?

The deal becomes big, until I tried to send a message to a person who does not write that he was not looking for an Asian chat. For me chat is a chat, of course, sometimes, I might end up something else, such as a further relationship or sex.

I sent a message in which I wrote “bonjour, you wanna chat?”. He replied that “sorry I am not into Asian. Au revoir.” I then look at the colour of my hand; I never, ever, found my hand is so “yellow” until there was a white person he said he was not “into” Asian. Instantly, I felt offended. I asked him what would the problem in a conversation dealing with Asian. He said “This is my preference, I am white and I am looking for white people. I don’t want to offend you. It is just like, I choose a cup of coffee or chocolate.” He sounded perfectly right, but I just didn’t feel so right. Why he has the power to ‘choose’ but not me? Why he first set a position that he can choose? i then sent him a message that I said, “since when a conversation is depended on the colour of the skin and you assume that your colour is dominant to the other?” He replied “Might be your English is not good enough to understand me” I was “amused” by what he had just shited from him mouth. He wrote “I am not into Asian”, “into” this adverb, we normally use for following a thing and object. Since when the entire Asian ethic becomes a fetish that just for certain people who would like to contact with?

This kind of conversation, it didn't happen once. However, I could hardly hear of any the-other-way-round conversation has happened. Long time ago, I saw a experimental film called “Some questions for 28 kisses", produced and & directed by Kip Fulbeck. This 7-minutes film is montage of different clips from the Hollywood films. We can see a lot of fragments of the film in which the Caucasian men flirt, kiss or save different Asian women. What does it mean? And how many film we can see an Asian guy kiss, save, flirt with a Caucasian woman? What is the ideology behind these Hollywood films? Is that the “chocolate theory?”

And why we would choose chocolate instead of coffee?

There is a metaphor; there is 2 kinds of tea in the supermarket, the Tea A, is managed by the big company which has done a lot of publicity on television, on poster in the metro, and the poster on the bus. Etc. On the other side, Tea B, is actually the same tea, but it has no publicity at all. In this supermarket, these 2 teas are now in fort of you, what would you choose? I don’t have to say how the media control what we need here. If humanity is really all about ‘imitation’, so, what the society is telling us to ‘become’ and to ‘choose’? Are we really consciously ‘choosing’ and ‘doing’ what we really determine to? Remember, personality is partly modified by our surrounding.